Why your happiness and emotional well-being don't depend on how others behave - and how to reclaim control over your internal experience.

You don't need other people to treat you right in order to be happy. You don't need other people to behave the way you expect them to behave in order to fulfill yourself. And it doesn't matter how close those people are to you. It's not an excuse. Because your internal processes are internal. Your emotions are internal. This whole life experience is going inside your body. It's yours. You are the command. You are the chief.

You don't need other people in order to feel certain emotions. You don't need outer events, experiences to happen in order to be or feel a certain way. Because you feel the way you feel and you are the way you are because of you.

We can debate on this, right? If someone dies, it's sad. If you make a million dollars, it's a happy moment. Maybe. But it's not your existence. It's just an event. Your interpretation of that event led to your emotions. And this is something that is causing a lot of pain in this world.

My partner - the way she behaves, the way she feels, her achievements or her day-to-day or the things she said to me or her worries or her problems or whatever - they are hers. They're not mine. My mother... The way she tells me, the things that she tells me, the way she wants me to behave, all of this, it's hers. It's not mine. It's not me. My father, my best friend, you name it. The way they are experiencing their day-to-day, while might be contingent, shouldn't be.

Because I can block it. Even if they are happy, it doesn't mean that I'm happy. Because, well, you know, this emotion, this experience is internal. I can control my body. Therefore, I can control the hormones. Therefore, I can affect my emotions. And that's fantastic. And that's the way to go. And that's what we should focus on."