Exploring whether we can truly experience life the way we want to, or if we're obligated to feel lack and disconnection.

Can you and I share a little deep talk together? Today's question is theoretical, but profound: Can we experience life the way we want to experience life?

Can you and I get to where we want to get? Feel the way we want to feel? Live the way we want to live? Talk with the people we want to talk to? Can we experience day-to-day life the way we want to experience it?

Or are we obligated to feel lack, disconnected, far away from where we want to be? Is this an obligation or just a choice?

Life Is... What?

Before we dive deeper, I invite you to complete this sentence: "Life is..."

Write it down. Life is a dance? A party? A dangerous place? What do you feel about life right now?

I believe all people - everywhere - want a beautiful, happy, joyful, energetic, fantastic life. At least most people I know would want that. Is that a fair assumption?

Yet when I ask people if they're living at full capacity, if all areas of their life are tremendously amazing as they want them to be, most don't answer with a resounding "yes." Most feel like they can get more, need to be more, feel like they're not there yet.

Even though we're probably living the best life possible - no humans in history had access to what we have in our pockets, in supermarkets, everywhere - most people don't have this sense of amazement. Most feel lack, feel behind, feel disconnected.

It's Not About "More" - It's About Perspective

Many think this is a "more mentality" - that we'll always want more no matter what. But I don't think it's about wanting more. I think it's about lack of perspective and lack of decision.

Think about it: You can choose to wake up early, and you do it. You can choose to raise your hand, and you do it. But what about choosing to become successful? You probably made that choice at 16 or 17, yet you might not feel successful.

The difference between those who feel successful and those who don't isn't the choice itself - it's perspective.

What If You Couldn't Fail?

Here's a thought experiment: What if you felt like there was zero chance you could fail at any endeavor? What would you have done differently today?

If you knew you couldn't fail, you might have:

• Bought Google stock early
• Rented the biggest theater in town for your project
• Taken a million-dollar loan for a crazy idea
• Gathered university talent to build a rocket to Mars

If you couldn't fail, you would have tried more. So what's preventing you from trying now?

The only thing preventing you from trying is the thought that you might fail.

The Edison Perspective

Thomas Edison allegedly tried 10,000 times to build a light bulb. When asked about failing so many times, he said, "Failed? I don't see it as failing. Now I know 10,000 ways that don't work."

What if every step you took was inevitable in your journey toward success? What if every attempt - whether it "succeeds" or "fails" - is simply one step closer to where you want to be?

If you try and don't get the result you expected, you're still one step closer because you've eliminated one approach that doesn't work in those circumstances, at that time, with that particular endeavor.

The Only Way to Actually Fail

The most successful people in any field keep trying no matter what. No matter how many rejections, how many "failures," they keep going until they reach where they want to be.

Actors go to audition after audition. Data scientists go to interview after interview. Entrepreneurs face rejection after rejection. Some get fired from their own companies and come back to lead them again. Some go bankrupt multiple times and still achieve greatness.

The only way you can actually fail is if you stop trying.

As long as you're trying, you're not failing - you're learning. You can either win or learn. Those are your only options when you're trying.

If you haven't tried? Then you can only fail.

Challenge Your Beliefs

Going back to what you wrote about life - is that belief getting you closer to where you want to be? Is it making your day-to-day reality better?

If yes, fantastic! If not, well, this is a great time to change it.

The question remains: Can we experience life the way we want to? I believe the answer lies not in circumstances, but in our perspective and our willingness to keep trying.

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